Dexter & Kandis

Words Matter

It was a Monday morning, the day of Kandis’ mammogram. She sat in the waiting room; the preliminary results came in – almost certain it’s cancer. But that needed to be confirmed with a biopsy which, following a call to the insurance company, could take weeks to schedule. Kandis told them that she didn’t have insurance, she’d pay with cash. Afterwards, she said, everyone moved her through the system at a much faster pace, even performing the biopsy on the same day as the mammogram. Kandis said it felt like a heavy burden was lifted from her, because as a Samaritan member she was able to move through the diagnostic stage quickly, and the answers came sooner.

The call came the day before Thanksgiving. There was cancer in her body. Breast cancer.

Kandis and Dex went into fight mode. They started with prayer, and the next chapter of their life began to unfold.

Kandis began searching for her care team. It took her three months to find a team she felt comfortable with…a team that would do more than treat the cancer that was in her body, a team that would care for her whole person. Kandis is grateful that as a Samaritan member she was able to make treatment choices to better benefit her body, her health, and her family.

Treatments were hard, and there were many adjustments that had to be made along the way. Some days walking from the couch to the kitchen was a marathon. “It was really just survival,” she said, “and I know the prayers of other people are what carried me through all of that. I would get text messages or notes with our Shares, of people saying we're praying for your healing. Those are things that helped me get through the treatment, just knowing other people were praying for me.”

“I'm so grateful to have something that allowed us to make those choices to better benefit my body, my health and my family.”

Dex remembers the day they received the diagnosis. “We just prayed,” he said. “And we said, God, we’re going to trust you.” And he knew that it would be through God’s grace that he would help his bride through this chapter, reminding her along the way that this experience was not going to define her, it was going to propel her.

There’s no longer any evidence of cancer in Kandis’ body. She and Dex are sharing their story – the one God continues to write – to offer hope and encouragement, to shine light into the dark places.

Dexter (Dex) and Kandis have been Samaritan members since 2018

Kandis enjoying kisses from her two young children.