Blessing your family members

Chris Hogan  ·  Jan 01, 2015

A mentor couple noticed Anne and I were not as joyful as we had been after only three months of marriage. The wife took Anne aside and inquired about our situation. She discovered that Anne was a bit disappointed in me because I was not fulfilling her expectations of spiritual leadership in the marriage like I had during the courtship. She suggested that we meet as a couple and they would demonstrate for us a key to marital success. We did meet later that night and the couple demonstrated for us a way to bless one another. It was awkward at first but we committed to speaking a daily blessing over each other for the rest of our marriage. Little did we know the impact it would have upon us and our family.

Components of a Blessing

We realized quickly that the blessing was most meaningful when we incorporated a few things as we spoke the blessing to one another.

  • Scripture: Speaking the Word of God over our family is one of the most powerful forces for imparting truth, vision and the power of God’s grace. Our tongues can be used to impart life by speaking a blessing or death by speaking a curse. We remind ourselves of how God sees a person when we use Scripture to impart a blessing.
  • Eye Contact: When we let our face shine upon our family, we let them know they have favor in our eyes. Children are always searching our countenance to see if they are in good standing, if they have found grace in our sight.
  • Tone of Voice: Our voice can set the tone in our home and allow our family to perceive our true thoughts and feelings toward them. The blessing overcomes the many curses our family can incur over a day’s time as they encounter so many different types of people, including their own family members.
  • Touch: Putting your arm around the shoulder or holding the hand of your family member meets a need people have for safe, healthy, appropriate touch. It will deepen the bond of safety and security that protects children from being vulnerable to wrong influences.

Purposes of a Blessing

Speaking a simple blessing such as Numbers 6:23-26 with the components of eye contact, tone of voice, and touch can be a way for any man to fulfill his role as a father as mentioned in 1 Thessalonians 2:10. We can exhort, comfort, and challenge our children with tender Words spoken to the heart from the heart of God the Father. Our family members will be able to daily experience a dose of love, worth, and identity as they start their day.

Children are often crying out for a blessing when they are acting out in wrong ways. We’re seeing this in the words of Esau: “And when Esau heard the words of his father, he cried with a great and exceeding bitter cry, and said unto his father, Bless me, [even] me also, O my father” (Genesis 27:34 KJV).

A Blessing Protects

“The LORD bless thee, and keep thee …” (Numbers 6:24 KJV).

We see three distinct parts of the Priestly blessing in Numbers 6.

I believe you can see each aspect of God in the Trinity, speaking a part of the blessing. The first is God the Father imparting a wall of protection around His people as He keeps us from harm and from evil. He is a wall of fire by night and a cloud by day.

A Blessing Imparts Grace

“The LORD make His face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee …” (Numbers 6:25 KJV).

We see the Son, Jesus Christ, imparting a blessing upon us in the second part of the blessing. He affirms that we have indeed found favor in God’s sight through Him and His finished work on the cross. We need daily reminders of this important truth so we can live to learn of God’s love rather than living to earn God’s love and grace. Knowing God is glad to be with us imparts great joy, and that becomes the strength we need for the daily challenges ahead of us.

A Blessing Imparts Peace

“The LORD lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace” (Numbers 6:26 KJV).

We see the Comforter, the Holy Spirit, imparting His peace in the third part of this Priestly blessing. When God lifts up His countenance upon us, we know that He sees us, He hears us, He understands us, and He is willing to comfort us so we can find daily peace in the midst of our trials. We have a secure place in the midst of the storms of life to anchor our souls. We need that daily reminder.

A Blessing Requires Faith

“He staggered not at the promise of God through unbelief; but was strong in faith, giving glory to God;  And being fully persuaded that, what he had promised, he was able also to perform” (Romans 4:20-21, KJV).

“Faith is not based upon what we see, it is based upon the Word of God and what we do not see as of yet. We must do what Abraham taught us by example ‘calleth those things which be not as though they were’” (Romans 4:17b, KJV).

As you begin speaking a blessing upon your family, God promises to put His Name upon them and to bless them. Scripture states that our greatest asset is the blessing of God. “The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and He addeth no sorrow with it” Proverbs 10:22 (KJV).

A Blessing Requires a Credible Messenger

“I have manifested Thy Name unto the men which Thou gavest Me out of the world” (John 17:6a, KJV).

As a father and mother, we have the opportunity to be a messenger of God and manifest His image to the children He has given us. When we speak the blessing, we are delivering a message from God to His children. The credentials for becoming a messenger for God is stated in Jeremiah 15:19a (KJV), “Therefore thus saith the LORD, If thou return, then will I bring thee again, [and] thou shalt stand before Me: and if thou take forth the precious from the vile, thou shalt be as My mouth.” We are to see the preciousness within each of our family members, and call it forth. The blessing will help us transfer the faith to our children as well when we acknowledge every good thing within ourselves and our children in Christ Jesus. “That the communication of thy faith may become effectual by the acknowledging of every good thing which is in you in Christ Jesus” (Philemon verse 6, KJV).

Allow God to use you to deliver His all important message so your family can experience the blessings of God, His protection, His grace, and His peace.