Member letter: 'I was shocked when my husband said he planned to transition into a woman'

SMI Member  ·  Sep 28, 2017

Thank you, thank you, Samaritan and Dan Phillips for the articles in the June newsletter about responding Biblically to LGBTQ family members.

I was blindsided last year when my husband of 27 years told me that he has had a life-long struggle with feeling like he was born the wrong gender, and that he planned to transition into a woman and live the rest of his life as a female. 

I was shocked, mortified, and completely broken. I didn’t know where to turn or who to talk to. I could barely speak words audibly at all. I finally confided in my pastor, and he lovingly and compassionately began an email ministry to me to help me through until I was finally able to speak about it.

We see the LGBTQ community on TV shouting for their rights and magazine covers of Bruce Jenner at the supermarket, but when it happens to you, it’s very different. I felt so alone and didn’t know where to turn for help. There is such a need for Christian counseling in this area for parents and spouses. Thank you to Dan Phillips for speaking the Truth in love.

I still struggle even as I sit here at my desk filling out divorce paperwork. Divorce... something that I never imagined would happen to me, and I certainly could have never imagined the reason for it.

Thank you, Samaritan Ministries, for being about so much more than health care. I shared the articles with my mother-in-law and brothers-in-law with whom I am (and always will be) very close. They too are devastated by my husband’s decision.

Keep up the good work. Tackle those difficult issues.